At thirty-two years old, I finally feel like I am getting to know myself. My real self. I've spent so much time letting my surroundings dictate what I believe to be me, often feeling ashamed of the times when ‘real me' snuck out to make an appearance. A lot of this self discovery has been happening just because I think it's the nature of growing up. But an enormous epiphany happened after taking a personality test and then reading an article about what stresses that type out. EVERYONE MUST TAKE THIS TEST AND READ THIS ARTICLE.
Take this test. It's free and only takes like 10 minutes.
Read this article on what stresses your personality type out and what helps you in these times.
These things are spot on! I've made everyone I know take that test and read that article. Every single person was blown away with their accuracy.
Well, identifying certain things about myself that are clearly just inherently me, has helped me understand and love myself. Clearly there are plenty of other humans on the planet with these traits, so I must not be a freak of nature deserving shame after all. (You can even see which celebrities share your personality!)
Why is this so important?
Aside from the obvious–of you know, not hating yourself–Jen and I both watch and listen to super successful people talk about how they got to where they are and they ALL say, “you have to know yourself and be you” in order to find success.
Who Am I?
I am an INFP. More specifically, I am what you see in the photo above. Those are my exact results. That site allows you to dig deeper into each personality type and mine is, as expected, totally accurate. “INFPs never seem to lose their sense of wonder… INFPs have the ability to see the good in almost anyone or anything.” Um, yeah. I have the latter almost to a fault.
After reading the article about stressors, I was able to identify–what you would think would be painfully obvious, but IS NOT–exactly what stresses me out. I mean, pinpointing the precise stuff that tweaks my day into oblivion. Of course, many of these things are just part of life and cannot be avoided. But, this has allowed me to say, ‘hey, I need to take a minute and just freaking color in my coloring book' and not feel like a childish brat. Doing something simple and creative is exactly what my mind needs to regroup, relax, and get back into a good flow. This is exponentially helpful with my creative process.
It's also helped me in my relationship with my boyfriend.* I am legitimately afraid of being abandoned. Because of some of the issues we've had in our relationship in the past, when he tries to talk to me I react. Like a nuclear reactor. He then shuts down and decides not to talk to me. This has caused an enormous problem with our bond due to lack of open communication. Once I identified that I'm only reacting out of fear and not anger, it was easier for both of us to open up. Plus, when he took the test I was able to understand him so much better too. *UPDATE: Well, we didn't end up working out. But to be honest, that was on him. He has no idea who he is and was trying to be something he wasn't. I am super disappointed, but now know exactly what I am looking for.
But back to the professional world. Knowing my strengths and weaknesses has totally helped me be way more productive and allows Jen and I to play on each other's strengths. Speaking of…
If you compare what stresses me out with Jen's personality and visa versa we are each other's worst nightmares. And we can both agree that at times this puts a super strain on our relationship because we obviously work together running this blog. However, having identified and simplified these traits/stressors, we are now able to communicate more effectively and not drive each other as crazy.
We may stress each other out, but we make a great team. I have strengths where she has weaknesses and the same for the reverse. In business this is totally ideal. It makes perfect sense that big businesses have their employees take these kinds of personality tests so that they are placed in the most efficient position within the team/company.
Why on earth isn't this stuff taught in schools?! It's literally like the handbook on people skills!
If you are really struggling and feel like you just need someone to listen, you can talk to counselors online. You can sign up for a free trial at BetterHelp.com. It's all done over the phone! Perfect for us introverts!
Who are you?
Take the test and let us know! We'd love to hear all about what you've learned about yourself.
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