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How Open Ended Questions Can Revive Relationships with Teens

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Asking open ended questions is something I have had to really learn about and practice. They don’t come out naturally for me and I think a lot of us suffer from using closed ended questions as parents. With prom and graduation season upon us, important conversations should be had. I’m happy to offer some valuable tools to your toolbox so you can tackle the situation successfully. I participated in an Ambassador Program on behalf of Influence Central for Anheuser-Busch’s Family Talk About Drinking Program. I received a promotional item to thank me for my participation.

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Did you know Anheuser-Busch has been sharing this program for over 20 years!? They are truly dedicated to helping parents communicate with their families about drinking. In fact, research shows that parents have the greatest influence on teens’ decisions about drinking alcohol; and there has been a 24% increase in that influence since 1991. So despite our feelings that our kids don’t care what we think, they do!

I recently shared 10 tips for talking to your teen about drinking that were inspired by certified educator and parent coach, MJ Corcoran. However, I’d like to take this opportunity to emphasize the importance of taking on the role of the Coach. For children 14-21 and up, the parenting role we should be in is the coach. Here are four tips from MJ:

  • Find Windows of Opportunity to Talk
  • Connect with Your Teen
  • Ask Open Ended Questions
  • Encourage Accountability

You can find a whole bunch more here.

Open Ended Questions

I recently took a counseling class as part of my bachelor’s degree in nutrition. While the focus was on nutrition counseling, I took away much more. We learned a lot about open ended questions and how important they are for really connecting with someone. It was in this class I realized I almost never use open ended questions with my kids. I immediately started using them and the result was unbelievable. My kids opened up to me without hesitation. I hadn’t even realized how much I was missing.

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So you might be wondering what the heck an open ended question is. Well, it’s one that inspires thought and cannot be answered with a simple yes or no. It promotes conversation and personal reflection. The structure of the question and your tone upon delivery are the two most important components.

Closed ended questions are those that can be answered with yes or no or simple/short responses. These can be great for gathering information, but not for furthering the conversation.

Avoid “why” questions whenever possible as these can come off as judgmental especially if your tone is off. Why did you do that? Can put one on the defense, but what made you feel like that was the best way to handle that situation? leaves more room for honest explanation.

Tone is crucial. If you are too upset to control your tone, take a deep breath or even a short break from the situation to calm down and then restart with a cool, calm, nonjudgemental, tone to your voice.

Here are some examples of closed and open ended questions.

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Try using open ended questions the next time you’re coaching/talking to your teen and let me know how it goes!

For more great parenting tips, especially for summer party season, check out the FTAD Website and their Facebook Page.


About Shelley

Mother of two living in Montana. Graduated from Benedictine University with a BS in nutrition science. I love food, fitness, reading, and all things science. I'm the sister that travels.

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Comments

  1. Tammy Woodall says

    May 27, 2015 at 4:59 pm

    This is an important subject to cover with teenagers, but one that is also hard to discuss because its hard to find the right words that they will listen to. These are all great tips. Thanks for sharing it.

  2. M.Clark says

    May 27, 2015 at 10:19 pm

    I agree, this is a very important subject to cover with teens. And I think parents need to practice asking open ended questions. I think that people are most likely to ask closed ended questions. Thank you for sharing this post.

  3. Julie Wood says

    May 28, 2015 at 8:59 am

    First off, if there is a party with kids that are underage, they need to have parents there to chaperon, and parents need to make sure that there is no alcohol on the premises so no underage child drinks it. I would make sure to talk to my teen and tell him or her not to drink anything that someone offers you at a party because that is how kids can die. There have been so many situations where kids drank something that someone gave them, and they thought it was harmless and they died from it!!

  4. Debbie Welchert says

    May 28, 2015 at 12:27 pm

    I love your advice of using an open ended question. I am already going over in my mind on what questions I want to ask. I’m so ready to try this. Thanks!

  5. Sarah L says

    May 28, 2015 at 5:07 pm

    Open ended questions are good for talking to anyone: child, spouse, friend.

  6. nicole dziedzic says

    June 1, 2015 at 1:15 am

    I love the idea of open ended questions, awesome way to promote conversation and personal reflection with your kids.

  7. Tiffany Dover says

    June 5, 2015 at 12:59 am

    This is a fabulous post! Teens don’t ever open up willingly so asking them the correct questions are perfect!!

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